Wake up Calls

I was sitting outside this morning as usual with my cuppa thinking about the day ahead and listening to the radio, it was supposed to be chill out hour playing on the radio, but for my poor neighbour she got one hell of a un-chilled out start today.. kids ! they bring so much heartache and worry sometimes, i really do feel for her, this morning my eyes were welling up, at the crap she gets everyday, just by doing her best to be a good mum...

It started off with her going into his bedroom to get him dressed, (which is next to my lounge), hes 20 but has so many disabilities and demands constant care, this lad is really big due to not being able to walk or exercise at all, it must be so much hard work for them, over the years of living next door i get to hear and see alot but i wont ever complain, they cant help the noise and do their best to give their son the best possible life they can give him, but it doesn't come easy.
He has violent outbursts like nothing else ive seen at one point we used to get all sorts of things come flying over our fence, but solved that by putting up a canopy to pretect my kids, they did the same, but it not really his or his parents fault, even a dinner plate in the wrong hands does damage, so we try to understand and help them, especially by not complaining..

I know some people in the past who have been their previous neighbours couldn't hack it, they moved from house to house, but to be honest i don't think living next to triplets when they were babies could have been very easy for them either! i know from my point of view some days the screaming and crying would drive me to tears, but thats what you have to deal with, with children and why we have to put ourselves last on that list ... the more you put into them, the better you hope they will be prepared for that big bad world...and that we see is our responsibility as parents no matter how hard it gets at times..

Well this morning my neighbour went into her sons room to help get him dressed, to find he had woken in one of his ' bad moods' i knew as soon as i heard him swearing and banging about it wasn't going to be a good start for her, within mins she had been punched in the mouth twice and hit around the head with various objects......bear in mind her son weighs at least 18 stone, it must have really hurt her, i could hear the reaction she was having bless, what do you do when you hear someone getting hurt and you cant help, its terrible! I wanted to get over that fence and help but i know i have to stay quiet as thats what she wants and that she gets this everyday, I was standing behind that fence praying he would stop and she would be able to change his bad mood, but with a lot of children like him you cant............ parents who look after disabled children in my eyes deserve medals, my little sister has a little girl who's badly autistic and trying to communicate with her is so hard, she lives in another world, only she knows, full of frustrations that she cant get across to us. Ive watched my sister just like Jane battle with day to day things but still have a smile for you if they see you outside, these parents really need such a strength to deal with what they have on their plates, we moan about the silliest of things and feel sorry for ourselves for the stupidest of reasons, self pity doesnt come into these parents lives.. yet everyday they go through their lives having so much stress heaped on them, we simply wouldn't now what had hit us..
I count myself lucky, yes we may have worries, but we cope so its un-important really, but i don't get battered about and have to face a start to my day, like i witnessed this morning before anything else came into her day....
Parenthood isnt easy, but some parents get it hard all day, everyday ..
So today my thoughts and best wishes go out to them....